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Eva Guerra gives 4 tips to avoid energy thieves and an exercise as a spectator of your own life

I'm sure you've heard of energy thieves more than once. They refer to those people or things that steal your energy and end up exhausting you mentally, emotionally and even physically.

In fact, on my channel you have a video where I talk about 7 of these energy thieves you want to know.

At the end of this article, I invite you to see it to identify and avoid these 7 thieves as well.

However, there is an energy thief who speaks very little, but it is certainly the worst of all, because it is the one who steals the most energy from all the energy thieves out there.

You want to know what it is?

Then stay until the end of this article, because in it you will discover what is actually the biggest thief of our energy and 3 tips to avoid falling into it.

Most of us have heard of energetic vampires, those people who don't listen, who complain about everything, very negative people who are always in resistance, judgment or rejection.

These people are easy to identify because they are people who, although we want a lot, just by talking to them notice when your energy drops, you almost automatically fall short of yourself.

Most of us when we talk about energy thieves, we automatically think of people like this.

But there's an energy thief we could call white-gloved that's much worse than these people because we don't even realize that's the case.

We have this energy thief with us all day and without being aware of it, he is the one who actually steals the most energy from us.

He's our inner critic.

Tip 1- Identify your internal critic

We've all included different sets of instructions in our brains and it's those programs that tell your brain how to perform their response, because they need to think, believe, feel and act.

The vast majority of these programs have been included without even being aware of them.

Awareness of the way he takes, what does he say, how he speaks to you, what he criticizes, what does he reject?

Does it come in the form of rejection, self-questioning, perfectionism, fear, guilt...?

It is crucial that you observe and identify that inner voice when it appears in you.

Become aware of how loaded you are of rejection, either to you, to other people, or to life itself.

And also look at the subjectivity with which he speaks to you.

It becomes aware that it is not an objective voice that speaks to you about real facts, it is a completely subjective voice.

In some of my videos, I already told you about that voice.

This voice consists of models of thoughts that have generally been inherited, through past experiences and experiences, so we have recorded during our lives.

Many of these posts are internalized from little things that our reference adults and even our peers told us.

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Tip 2-  Don't be discouraged by your inner critic

Krishnamurti said: "You're not the conversation you hear in your head. You're the creature that listens to that conversation."

This is absolutely true and it is essential that you take it into account very carefully.

That conversation isn't you, that talk is a product of your mental programming.

Tip 3- Neutrality, objectivity and equanimity work

Every time you detect your inner critic in observational action, their subjective judgments and opinions, usually of rejection, begin to turn or turn into objective and neutral fact stories.

Learn how to describe the facts without introducing judgments into your story.

We are very used to observing and describing everything that happens to us by making judgments.

But there's another way to observe and describe what's happening to us, and it's neutral.

This is something that can be trained and that will certainly prevent you from suffering a lot in your life.

When I ask clients in my coaching practice what the biggest energy guzzlers are in their work, they mention: high workload, many successive changes, negativity from colleagues, fear culture and poor management. If they are team leaders themselves: lack of vision of the management. In many cases, when these employees come to me, these employees are stressed, overstretched, overloaded and in some cases completely burned out (burnout). 

Sometimes they are bored and miss challenge in their work (bore-out).

Tip 4-  Postponing and avoiding decision making

Postponing continuously is not healthy because it provides unnecessary stress to your daily activities. It is more stressful to always remember something you have to do than to deal with it and carry it out. When you delay something from occurring, you hinder the progress or benefit that that action may bring to you. In specific situations, postponing things may help you better prepare or avoid doing something that lacked purpose in the first place. Postponing important decisions drains off our energy because turns us into a state of uncertainty and malaise. Get rid of your internal battles, take the best decision you can and assume it regardless of the consequences.

Make sure you won’t make decisions when you are in a bad mood, wait to be calm and objective so you can better analyze the situation. Also, assume that you can fail. In the end, it’s better to make mistakes and try to repair them than not to do anything at all and suffer for the indecision.

Exercise: Be a spectator of your own life!

In the coming weeks, take a look at your own life as a spectator in order to track down your hidden energy eaters and energy givers. "As a spectator" means watching attentively, but you can't exert influence. In other words, you don't have to change anything. JUST TAKE A LOOK this week; look and learn what your energy eaters and energy givers are!